疫情后南加婚礼回归 华人踌躇红包该包多少
世界新闻网
4/03/2022
随着疫情缓解，南加有越来越多新人开始预订酒席准备办婚礼，而收到粉红炸弹婚礼邀请函的华人，有不少人却很踌躇红包该给多少钱。有人认为物价上涨，红包肯定也水涨船高，也有人认为要根据婚礼每个宾客餐饮成本，来决定红包的数额。也有新移民不适应请柬上写着「Registry」字样，认为这是「明要」。
往年4、5月都是新人办婚礼的热门月份，今年因为疫情缓解，新人们都开始筹办婚礼。即将结婚的李小姐表示，办婚礼肯定亏，光场地和餐饮就要人均300元，摄影摄像等都没算，但估计顶多每人收礼150元，说不定还有吃白食的，真心不想多请人。有些人知道她要结婚主动表示要来，一来肯定是全家三口人一起，但顶多给100元。和中国办婚礼挣钱相比，美国办婚礼通常亏钱，所以一些精打细算者干脆就不办婚礼。
有人因为婚礼预算高，而选择性筛选客人名单。华人林小姐办婚礼选择在一家五星级酒店，婚礼梦幻豪华。她说，因为是人生一次的婚礼，想着稍微隆重一点，但真心很贵，因为美国婚礼，通常都是客人付吃饭的钱，人均摊下来要几百元。她也没有设置礼物清单，只收钱，因为家里东西已经太多。同时她怕有些朋友和同事有负担，就没有邀请那些觉得可能负担不了的人。
华人Mandy也遇到类似情况。她说，她的同事结婚没邀请大家，有好事者打听到她婚礼的礼物清单，选了最便宜的毛巾套装送了，回来找大家摊，她想十刀不多就参与了，但心里也觉得不太舒服。
华人孙小姐最近收到同事的婚礼请柬，但不知道要给多少钱合适。她说，有朋友建议她看婚礼场合，按照现在物价，一般每人怎么也得100元起，也可按照婚礼简陋或豪华程度上下调整金额。也有人建议要看有几顿饭，有的婚礼有好几次招待，及打算参加几次饭局。老美有时也会问新娘，每个人的成本多少，然后差不多给现金或者礼品卡。
陈先生对参加婚礼的建议是，即使不送礼物也要给自己饭钱，或者看新人有没有礼物清单，通常买清单上的礼物比送钱方便。
也有一些新移民不太习惯美国婚礼的习俗，有些人去参加婚礼一分钱没给，吃了白食，也有人拒绝参加婚礼。华人江先生说，除非是关系特别好的，不然去婚礼就是凑人场，给别人做背景板。有些人的婚礼请柬上写着礼物清单字样，且明示或暗示要给钱，这种他从来都不去。不要钱的他都不一定想去，浪费时间，要钱的更不去了！
女医生在新冠重症病房工作 挚友不让她出席婚礼
联合新闻网
9/06/2021
美国一位女医生朗格（Emily Long）上月底透露，她最好朋友不让她出席婚礼，只因她目前在新冠肺炎重症监护室值勤。
朗格表示自己耗资数千美元准备参加好友的婚礼，还很努力地从紧凑行程腾出时间。她发了短信给好友告知自己已接受筛检、并采取相关预防措施希望让对方安心，岂料好友发现她在照顾染疫病人后竟「彻底吓坏」，还拒绝让朗格出席婚礼，因为她「会让很多人和好友感到不舒服」。
朗格原本在整形外科工作，但因最近美国疫情升温被转调到新冠肺炎重症监护室支持。
朗格的影片吸引了超过620万观看人次，许多网友对她的遭遇感同身受表示：「她绝对不算妳最好的朋友。这样做很不OK耶！你是医护人员，应该得到更多尊重」、「女孩，请告诉我她不再是你朋友了。很遗憾这种事发生在你身上」、「要不要先问问她，宾客是否都接受筛检了？」
Doctor reveals she was uninvited to wedding for working in healthcare during COVID
By Ellie Spina
9/06/2021
A doctor has gone viral for revealing she was uninvited to a close friend’s wedding simply because she’s a healthcare worker during COVID-19.
Last week, Dr. Emily Long shared a video to TikTok, venting her frustrations to viewers following an exchange with the bride-to-be. In the video, which has gained more than 4.7 million views, Long said she was ready to fly to her home state of Texas from Boston, Mass. following a 28 hour shift as a plastic surgery resident.
According to Long, she had spent “thousands of dollars” on pre-wedding events and was planning on utilizing her “limited” vacation time to attend. Things took a turn when Long contacted her friend to confirm details of the trip, resulting in the bride rescinding her invitation.
“When I texted her this morning to let her know that I was being tested and taking all these precautions before I flew in an attempt to make her feel comfortable, she totally freaked out when she found out that I take care of sick people,” Long said before adding sarcastically, “Who would have thought that a doctor takes care of sick people? I don’t know.”
Long ended her video by telling viewers that her presence would the bride “and other people” feel uncomfortable, adding that she was left with a non-refundable flight to Texas.
The video struck a chord with TikTok viewers, who called Long’s friend “a hypocrite” for uninviting her while still choosing to get married during a pandemic.
“Having a wedding in Texas and being concerned about COVID do not go in the same sentence,” one viewer wrote.
“How nervous could she really be?” another person asked. “She’s having a wedding in Texas.”
Others told Long similar stories of feeling ostracized from events because they or someone in their household works in healthcare.
“My daughter is an EMT and our whole family was uninvited to events,” one person wrote. “Yet she’s the very person that would take care of them in the emergency room.”
“My best friend of many years and I stopped being friends because she was so scared of me during the pandemic because I worked with COVID patients,” another said.
“I’m so sorry, I can see the hurt. I have a similar story,” a woman told Long. “I flew to a wedding with my husband, who was the best man and we weren’t allowed in the ceremony. “
“Isn’t it funny how last year, doctors and nurses were all heroes (which they are), but this year they are looked at as villains,” added another.
“That’s just f—-ing cruel,” someone else chimed in. “So last minute, and she knew you were working in the medical field the whole time anyway.”
In a follow-up video, Long revealed that she chose to cancel her flight in exchange for flight credits, and chose to stay at work instead.
“I am working because I have a commitment to my job and to my patients and to my program to — you know — be a professional,” she said.
